Compassionate Boundaries: Caring for ourselves and others
with Tenzin Chogkyi

Tuesdays, Nov 14, 21, 28 & Dec 5, 7–8:30pm EST ONLINE

How do we help others while taking care of ourselves?

How can we say “no” and set limits with compassion?

How do we set limits while staying connected in our relationships?

It’s easy to think that being kind and compassionate means that we have to be available to everyone, 24/7, and do whatever it is they ask of us. We feel guilty about saying “no” or valuing our own needs. As a result, instead of feeling open and compassionate, we end up feeling resentful, stressed, and burned out. Is this really the meaning of compassion? How can we set boundaries compassionately so that we can hold ourselves with care while helping others?

Join us for four Tuesday evenings for a dynamic workshop exploring this important question – real compassion training for real life.

This four-session workshop will include presentation of concepts, contemplative practices, Q&A, discussion, and interactive exercises. Participants will gain insights and skills that will allow them to show up with compassion and altruistic action sustainably, thus avoiding burn-out.

Prerequisites: It is helpful, but not required, if participants have taken a training like Compassion Cultivation Training or Mindful Self-Compassion, or studied compassion in a contemplative context.

This class will be held on Zoom. Space in class is limited to 24 people, and you must have a working camera and microphone to participate.

Important Note

This is an online-only event that is administered using Zoom.

After registering, the system automatically sends a confirmation and/or a receipt email that contains the Zoom meeting link and/or other instructions. If you don’t immediately receive the system email(s) or you have any other questions, please contact us at

*Zoom is an interactive video-conferencing tool that allows participants to see one another and ask questions. You will need a computer, a tablet or a smartphone with the Zoom application to attend. If you are using Zoom for the first time, please login earlier to allow any necessary installations on your device.


Suggested: $20 per session, or $72 for all 4-weeks of the course
Other offering options: free, $5, $10, $30

The suggested amount helps support teacher offerings and expenses, direct costs and rent. Shantideva member benefits will apply automatically if you have a membership in MindBody. 

Shantideva Center may publish recorded sessions in the public domain (e.g., on YouTube). By registering for this event, you are agreeing to give your consent to this process. To protect your privacy, we recommend being conscious about any personal information you share during the sessions. To further enhance anonymity, you may want to consider turning off video or naming yourself using abbreviations.

Time zone: US Eastern Standard Time (GMT/UTC-5)

For questions regarding registration, please email for assistance.

Additional Materials

If you are a registered student, you may access the readings on our password protected page. After registering, an online receipt will be sent to the email address that you used to register. The page link and password will be on the receipt. Please contact us at if you have questions about accessing this page.

Dana for the Teacher

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About the Teacher

Tenzin Chogkyi (she/her/hers) is a teacher of workshops and programs that bridge the worlds of Buddhist thought, contemplative practice, mental and emotional cultivation, and the latest research in the field of positive psychology. Tenzin first became interested in meditation in the early 1970s and then started practicing Tibetan Buddhism in early 1991 during a year she spent studying in India and Nepal. She completed several long meditation retreats over a six-year period and took monastic ordination with His Holiness the Dalai Lama, practicing as a monastic for nearly 20 years. Since 2006 she has been teaching in Buddhist centers around the world and taught in prisons for 15 years.

She is also a certified teacher of Compassion Cultivation Training and the Cultivating Emotional Balance program. Tenzin is especially interested in bringing the wisdom of Buddhism into modern culture and into alignment with modern cultural values such as racial and gender justice and environmental awareness. She feels strongly that a genuine and meaningful spiritual path includes not only personal transformation, but social and cultural transformation as well. She loves interfaith collaboration and is a volunteer for the Interfaith Speakers Bureau of the Islamic Networks Group in the greater San Francisco Bay Area. She is featured on a monthly radio show called “Reflections on Buddhism” on KSQD 90.7 in the Santa Cruz area. She also finds time to create her Unlocking True Happiness podcast which you can check out at where you will also find her current teaching schedule. She is currently based on traditional Awaswas Ohlone land, in what is now known as Santa Cruz, CA.